I truly am sorry for the lack of updating. I blame it on facebook. When you update your life over there, it becomes difficult to do it in two places. I still have no pictures. I've been terrible about taking them!
This weekend Aunt Molly came back to help get things squared away with dad. Thursday we went straight to STJ to go through all the boxes in his apartment. We made piles for goodwill, piles for ourselves, a box for mom, and about 5 trash bags. Friday we headed back up there to clean. Grandma met us as well as Jared and Bob. Jared took quite a bit of stuff- the bedroom set, the guns, the fishing stuff, and an end table. We got mom's stuff home ourselves. The trip to goodwill was so easy! There'a store called the DAV (Disabled American Veterans) and you just pull up and they unload it for you! Awesome. It only took us about 2 hours to get everything out and cleaned up. We put the couch and chair out on the sidewalk and the neighbor picked it up in about 5 minutes. It was pretty funny. The apartment was terribly dirty, but I assume it hadn't been clean when he moved in since he only lived there MAYBE 6 weeks. Whatever, it's clean now, so we should get the deposit back and have a bit more money for some winter clothes for dad and gas for me.
After cleaning things out we went out to eat with Grandma, Jared and Melissa, and mom. There was a monsoon happening! Crazy rain. We stopped off to see dad for awhile on the way home.
Saturday we took the kids up to STJ to hang out for an hour or two with dad and Grandma Betty. I went and got ice cream for everyone at Culver's. The kids LOVE going to Grandma Betty's. She has a bunch of crayons and toys for them to play with and it's always a hit. It makes me happy that they like to go there.
Molly left for NC yesterday morning. The kids and I went to church and then to Lana's for lunch.
My dad looks terrible. Very much like an old man. He had stopped eating pretty much entirely before all this happened and was quite skinny. Since then he's eating normally and has gained weight, but he's also retaining fluid which makes him look horrible. His face is huge and his legs are always swollen. He's lost his hair on his legs and head which is weird in itself. He's so tired he can barely stand a 2 hour visit and can't always make it down to Grandma's by walking. It's really very interesting. It's hard to know if it's all basically caused by the disease process, or the treatment. Let's not forget to mention how he also destroyed many things on his body with alcohol. He starts another round of chemo today. I will take him tomorrow and he also has an appointment with the radiologist. I would like to see some scans of the cancer to see what's happening. Everything we read on melanoma says how fast it moves....well it's been nearly 2 months now. What are we looking at? It's so uncertain.
I don't feel stressed about it at all, but I apparently have an ulcer that seems to act up fairly often. It's nice. I'm probably not as organized as I need to be with everything, but I'm getting by. Sorry for the lack of pictures- bare with me. I'm sure I'll be regretful of these 2 months of forgetting my children's lives....oh well.